I need prayers

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Permalink Reply by Ryan Huling on August 18, 2010 at 7:07pm

I'm praying for you Darren.

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Permalink Reply by Kenny Russell on August 19, 2010 at 6:37am

HI Darren,

I have been praying for you for the last 2 days and I want to encourage you before your wife moves to Atlanta to get marriage counsel from her (fundamental) Baptist Church together, the reason for this is that your marriage issues are not about doctrine and church views and if she is adamant about her baptist beliefs this is only a small part of repairing your marriage. if through counsel it is agreed that marriage is a covenant that should not be broken then they will also have to agree that marriage separation cannot be on the grounds of Baptist denominational beliefs. If you have to attend with her for a season when she moves to Atlanta then agree to do so on the grounds that you develop a prayer and devotional life together before the Lord for your love to grow stronger and for you both to be drawn closer to Jesus.

Marriage separation that is not about seeking the Lord in restoring the marriage is rebellion before the Lord and if your wife truly seeks to follow Jesus she will make a go at a Godly restoration of your marriage. In America the sad fact is that many so called Christian counsel is based on the world not the Word of God so do your home work on what the Word says concerning 2 flesh becoming one flesh and Gods will in the marriage covenant as your wife seems to be into telling you going to her Baptist Church is the only path for Gods will, ask the marriage counsel to minister to you both from God will in marriage.
the key to success in restoration is accountability when you have done everything in your strength to restore the marriage call on the body of Christ to support you. For you to see the repair you may well have to get this help from here church which is OK because you want her to want to have counsel and the bottom line in counsel is not about you being a better Baptist but about husband and wife growing in Christ as the center in the marriage together.

Love and prayers and i hope this helps

Kenny

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Permalink Reply by Darren on August 30, 2010 at 11:29am

Good News, We are working things out and as of now she says that I can move down there with her. I need to remain her in Fort Collins Colorado until my son graduates then I am free to move down there. That gives me a year to work on self improvement to become a better husband I wish we could attend counseling together but we can't right now. She is leaving to Atlanta tomorrow. I want to make this work but Atlanta is a big city with all the dangers that come with that so I am worried because I can't be there to protect her. That causes me stress and stress causes depression in me. I need prayers for a mentor some one who can help me grow in the lord as well as learn to become a better husband to my wife Vicki. I know that couple counseling is workable right now but if I become a more consistent man of God perhaps I do not need couples counseling. She does love me. He words are that I am a great lover, great cook and a good person but a lousy room mate. So I need to become a person she can tolerate living with. I am better at cleaning up after myself but need to be better. I have to learn to control my depression because I get cranky when I am depressed. I isolated my depression to be caused by stress, so I have to learn how to cop with stress better. Find an outlet for that perhaps I will try more exercises. But when I bottle things up the results is depression in me it took me years to isolate that and realize why I would get depressed for no reason at all.

But the great thing is there is hope and Vicki is willing to take me back since the above post was written. My son will be done with his school in a year an my promise to him will be done. So pray that GOD will help me be the husband she needs and that GOD will protect her down there in the heart of Dixie.

Thank you so much for your prayers

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Permalink Reply by Ryan Huling on August 31, 2010 at 1:15pm

Darren, if you struggle with depression you may need counseling in order to get over it. It's great that you want to improve yourself. I would advise you to seek the Lord with all your heart and make Him your primary focus as He can help you truly mature and heal from wounds. I've struggled with depression in my life and sometimes its impossible to control it. Sometimes we have to go through seasons of pain. don't beat yourself up for feeling depressed. That only makes things worse. Seek the Lord and He will help you with all your struggles. He has done that for me. Hope this helps.

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Permalink Reply by Rod on September 3, 2010 at 10:26pm

My prayers are with you Darren. I know all so well how it hurts to have someone you love seperated by religeon. I pray love has a chanch in your life and marriage. - Rod







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Permalink Reply by Tim Blodgett on September 6, 2010 at 3:21pm

Darren,

I'm glad to hear that things are looking hopeful for your marriage. I hope we can finally make it work to start meeting with you. I'll keep in touch.

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